Table of Contents
Dedication.
Author Note.
Chapter 1: Why Talk About Anger?
Chapter 2: Understanding Anger.
Chapter 3: The Science Behind Anger.
Chapter 4: Common Triggers.
Chapter 5: The Cost of Uncontrolled Anger.
Chapter 6: Self-Awareness – Catching Anger Early.
Chapter 7: Strategies for Calming Down.
Chapter 8: Changing Thought Patterns.
Chapter 9: Healthy Expression of Anger.
Chapter 10: Building Emotional Resilience.
Chapter 11: Relationships Damaged by Anger.
Chapter 12: When Anger Masks Deeper Issues.
Chapter 13: Anger in Special Situations.
Chapter 14: A New Way of Living.
Dedication
To everyone who has ever felt trapped by anger and longed for peace. May these words remind you that change is possible and that calm is within your reach.
Author Note
Dear reader, I did not write this book from a place of theory. I wrote it from observation, from concern, and from a deep desire to see change. I live among a group of people who get angry now and then. That in itself is not unusual—anger is part of being human. But what troubled me was not the emotion. It was what followed.
I have seen anger spill into fights, pride push people to prove they are “man enough,” and small conflicts grow into life-altering consequences. I have watched young men posture in moments of rage, unaware that one uncontrolled reaction could lead to prison, broken families, or a lifetime of regret.
There were moments when I would look at them and almost see the future unfolding—fists thrown, emergency sirens wailing, courtrooms, cells, and years lost to a single decision made in seconds. It was in those moments that the idea for this book was born.
I wanted to write something for the person who feels the heat rising but doesn’t know how to cool it. For the one whose calm words fail to come out of their mouth when they need them most. For the one who later says, “That’s not who I want to be,” but feels trapped in the cycle. This book is my attempt to reach those people.
I want you to know that being above your anger is not weakness—it is strength. Real strength is not in raised fists or loud voices. It is in self-control. It is in walking away when pride tells you to stay and fight. It is in choosing peace when ego demands proof. It is in mastering yourself. Anger will always visit us. But what we do with it is our choice.
You are not powerless. You are not destined to repeat the same reactions. You are capable of growth, restraint, and transformation. Choosing calm in a heated moment does not make you less of a person—it makes you more.
If even one life is redirected, one fight is avoided, one relationship is preserved, or one person discovers that self-control is greater than intimidation, then these pages will have served their purpose. Thank you for taking this journey.
David Waithera
Anger: Respond, Don’t Explode
© 2026
