Marriage is meant to be a safe place, a place of love, trust, and growth. It is where two people build a life together, where children are raised in security, and where companionship is meant to heal loneliness. But in many homes today, marriage has lost its meaning. It has become a battlefield of pride, betrayal, and selfishness. And when marriages collapse, people often say, “It was God’s plan.” But was it really?
Divorce is one of the greatest wounds of our generation. Families are breaking apart faster than ever. Children are caught in the crossfire, torn between parents who once promised to protect them. Husbands and wives carry bitterness like weapons, each blaming the other for the wreckage. And yet, after the dust settles, some will shrug and say, “Well, maybe God wanted it this way.” No. God does not get glory in broken promises. Divorce is not a miracle or Gods order; it is a scar.
Let us be honest. Many marriages fail not because of fate but because of choices. Infidelity destroys trust. Neglect starves affection. Abuse crushes the soul. When a husband cheats on his wife, it is not God’s will—it is his own choice. When a wife abandons her marriage for selfish desires, it is not destiny—it is her own decision. Marriage is not broken by fate; it is broken by people.
Selfishness is the great killer of marriage. When each partner enters the relationship thinking only of what they can get, not what they can give, the union is doomed. A man who sees his wife only as a servant will crush her spirit. A woman who sees her husband only as a wallet will drain him dry. Marriage cannot survive when love is replaced by exploitation.
Pride is another enemy. Pride refuses to apologize. Pride refuses to forgive. Pride turns small disagreements into wars. How many marriages have ended because two people could not humble themselves to say, “I was wrong”? Yet they will later claim, “Maybe God wanted us apart.” No—God did not want your pride.
Neglect is just as dangerous. Marriage requires daily investment—time, attention, and care. A spouse who spends more time with work, friends, or screens than with their partner slowly starves the relationship. Love is not killed overnight; it withers through neglect. When partners fail to nurture the bond, they should not be surprised when the marriage dies. And they should not dare to call its funeral “God’s will.”
And let us not ignore abuse. A home where violence rules is not a home. It is a prison. No one should mistake cruelty for destiny. A man who beats his wife is not a tool of God; he is a coward. A woman who poisons her husband with constant insults is not anointed; she is destructive. Abuse is a choice, not a holy assignment.
But marriage does not have to end in tragedy. Upright choices can make it a place of glory. Honesty builds trust. Sacrifice deepens love. Patience creates peace. Respect protects dignity. When a husband and wife choose uprightness daily, the home becomes a garden where love grows strong. And when children are raised in such a garden, they carry that love into the world. That is what glorifies God—not the ashes of divorce, but the beauty of commitment.
Marriage is not easy. It demands work, humility, and forgiveness. Two imperfect people must learn to live as one. Mistakes will happen, tempers will rise, and weaknesses will show. But uprightness means choosing to fight for the bond, not against it. It means protecting the covenant, not breaking it at the first storm.
The truth is, marriages are broken today because people have turned love into a contract instead of a covenant. A contract is easy to tear up when it no longer benefits you. A covenant, on the other hand, binds you even when it hurts. A contract is based on feelings; a covenant is based on commitment. A contract says, “I will stay as long as you please me.” A covenant says, “I will stay because I promised to.” Only covenants last.
So if you are married, ask yourself: am I building my home on selfishness or sacrifice? On pride or humility? On neglect or nurture? On abuse or respect? Do not deceive yourself—your choices will decide your future. And do not blame God if your marriage falls apart because of your own foolishness.
Marriage is not meant to glorify chaos. It is meant to glorify love, faithfulness, and responsibility. If we return to uprightness in marriage, our homes will heal, our children will thrive, and our nations will grow stronger. But if we continue to treat marriage carelessly, we will keep burying families and then lie to ourselves, saying, “It was God’s will.”
Divorce is one of the greatest wounds of our generation. Families are breaking apart faster than ever. Children are caught in the crossfire, torn between parents who once promised to protect them. Husbands and wives carry bitterness like weapons, each blaming the other for the wreckage. And yet, after the dust settles, some will shrug and say, “Well, maybe God wanted it this way.” No. God does not get glory in broken promises. Divorce is not a miracle or Gods order; it is a scar.
Let us be honest. Many marriages fail not because of fate but because of choices. Infidelity destroys trust. Neglect starves affection. Abuse crushes the soul. When a husband cheats on his wife, it is not God’s will—it is his own choice. When a wife abandons her marriage for selfish desires, it is not destiny—it is her own decision. Marriage is not broken by fate; it is broken by people.
Selfishness is the great killer of marriage. When each partner enters the relationship thinking only of what they can get, not what they can give, the union is doomed. A man who sees his wife only as a servant will crush her spirit. A woman who sees her husband only as a wallet will drain him dry. Marriage cannot survive when love is replaced by exploitation.
Pride is another enemy. Pride refuses to apologize. Pride refuses to forgive. Pride turns small disagreements into wars. How many marriages have ended because two people could not humble themselves to say, “I was wrong”? Yet they will later claim, “Maybe God wanted us apart.” No—God did not want your pride.
Neglect is just as dangerous. Marriage requires daily investment—time, attention, and care. A spouse who spends more time with work, friends, or screens than with their partner slowly starves the relationship. Love is not killed overnight; it withers through neglect. When partners fail to nurture the bond, they should not be surprised when the marriage dies. And they should not dare to call its funeral “God’s will.”
And let us not ignore abuse. A home where violence rules is not a home. It is a prison. No one should mistake cruelty for destiny. A man who beats his wife is not a tool of God; he is a coward. A woman who poisons her husband with constant insults is not anointed; she is destructive. Abuse is a choice, not a holy assignment.
But marriage does not have to end in tragedy. Upright choices can make it a place of glory. Honesty builds trust. Sacrifice deepens love. Patience creates peace. Respect protects dignity. When a husband and wife choose uprightness daily, the home becomes a garden where love grows strong. And when children are raised in such a garden, they carry that love into the world. That is what glorifies God—not the ashes of divorce, but the beauty of commitment.
Marriage is not easy. It demands work, humility, and forgiveness. Two imperfect people must learn to live as one. Mistakes will happen, tempers will rise, and weaknesses will show. But uprightness means choosing to fight for the bond, not against it. It means protecting the covenant, not breaking it at the first storm.
The truth is, marriages are broken today because people have turned love into a contract instead of a covenant. A contract is easy to tear up when it no longer benefits you. A covenant, on the other hand, binds you even when it hurts. A contract is based on feelings; a covenant is based on commitment. A contract says, “I will stay as long as you please me.” A covenant says, “I will stay because I promised to.” Only covenants last.
So if you are married, ask yourself: am I building my home on selfishness or sacrifice? On pride or humility? On neglect or nurture? On abuse or respect? Do not deceive yourself—your choices will decide your future. And do not blame God if your marriage falls apart because of your own foolishness.
Marriage is not meant to glorify chaos. It is meant to glorify love, faithfulness, and responsibility. If we return to uprightness in marriage, our homes will heal, our children will thrive, and our nations will grow stronger. But if we continue to treat marriage carelessly, we will keep burying families and then lie to ourselves, saying, “It was God’s will.”
